Dispelling the myth that you are alone, Open-Eyed Adoption takes a look at the importance of self-kindness and shows the way to get the support you need. Revealing interviews--from doctors, therapists, adoptive parents, adult adoptees, and birth moms--shed light on the origins of trauma, how different DNA really does have an affect, and the affect of hidden emotions like "Will you leave, too? Is there something I could finally push you away? If my own mother gave me away, why would you stay?" --Back cover.