Proof of life

let go let love and stop looking for permission to live your life

Proof of life

let go let love and stop looking for permission to live your life
Jennifer Pastiloff
Book - 2025

"Having finally achieved professional and financial success, Jen Pastiloff should have been content. She repeatedly told herself that her life was fine and that fine was enough. Mostly though, what she told herself was Who am I to think that I get to leave fine? Until one day, the muted voice saying that something was missing no longer stayed muted, but started screaming. She remembered that we all have an Inner Asshole that whispers in your ear what you SHOULD do and don't do and tells you that you don't deserve more than what you have. She realized she'd been listening too long to the voice of Should. Enough was enough. This book is Pastiloff's account of how she radically changed her own life, leaving her marriage, taking risks professionally, and stepping out of her safe bubble when safety was all she'd ever wanted, after losing her beloved father when she was eight, while imparting her courage and wisdom to inspire readers to do the same. She shows us it is never too late to change the stories we think define us. The ones that deprive us of accepting greater love, fulfillment, and joy. Stories like: I don't deserve this, I'm a bad daughter, No one will ever love me, I'm too old to change, to name a few. Through this book, you learn how to quiet your Inner Asshole, participate in the cathartic process of Shame Loss, recognize your I Got You People, ignore the Imaginary Time Gods, use creativity as a portal into healing, and become your own Permission Slip. As Pastiloff reminds us, it's not about changing who you are but allowing yourself to find your way back to you. Complete with takeaways in Jen's signature writing style, writing prompts, and poetry, Proof of Life is funny, inspiring, and full of love. It's about showing up for yourself and for those around you. In Pastiloff's words, at the end of our lives let's say that we have done love"--

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Bibliographic Details
Main Author: Pastiloff, Jennifer (Author)
Format: Book
Language:English
Published: New York, NY : Dutton, an imprint of Random House LLC, [2025]
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505 0 |a Introduction: Do it before you run out of light -- Poem: Proof of life -- Glossary of terms in Proof of Life -- You get to have this -- Poem: Changing lanes -- You are never lost -- Poem: Show-off -- The era of because I want to do it this way -- Poem: Kinds of afraid -- Leaving the land of time -- Poem: Shame -- Shame loss -- Poem: Altering time -- You are right on time -- Poem: How to get connected -- Love is a verb -- Poem: The coal town bus route from Lewisburg to Philadelphia -- The will to grow must outweigh the need to stay safe -- Poem: To be spoken in a whisper -- Chasing goats, finding compassion, and ending that lonely life of self-abandonment -- Poem: Perspective -- Suppose -- Poem: When we really look -- Find a way in -- Poem: Afterbirth -- Keep bending -- Poem: It's all ours -- Epilogue: Eat the cake. 
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