True to you

a therapist's guide to stop pleasing others and start being yourself
Dr Kathleen Smith
Book - 2024

"A Guide to The Theory and Practice of Creating Authentic Relationships. When's the last time you felt as composed as you portray to your boss, family and friends? If there's a discord between the two, you're not alone. Humans are master pretenders--we often seem stronger, calmer and more mature than we really are, while the truth is we're full of doubts and self-criticism that pushes us to borrow reassurance from friends, beliefs from strangers on the internet, or attention that, in the moment, makes us feel successful, but leaves us totally hollow and burnt out. True to You is a relatable self-help guide for people who want to learn to live less focused on others' reactions and more confidently by their own principles. Readers will learn how to: Interrupt relationship patterns that keep you stuck; Rely less on praise and approval from others; Develop a solid sense of self in anxious times; Build more authentic and rewarding relationships. Dr. Smith uses examples from the lives of her therapy clients to explain how we borrow confidence, calmness, and beliefs from our relationships and offers actionable steps and exercises for building a life with your own best-thinking. With a healthy dose of humor, she unpacks the science of our social nature, explaining why we try so hard to be what others want us to be and how we can start living from the inside out. By learning how to be more responsible for yourself, rather than over-responsible for everyone else, you can find the freedom to develop richer relationships, pursue what's important to you, and feel steadier in this very anxious world"--

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Bibliographic Details
Main Author: Smith, Kathleen, 1985- (Author)
Format: Book
Language:English
Published: New York : St. Martin's Essentials, 2024.
Edition:First edition.
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