Fawning
why the need to please makes us lose ourselves--and how to find our way back
Fawning
why the need to please makes us lose ourselves--and how to find our way back
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"From a clinical psychologist and expert in complex trauma recovery comes a powerful guide introducing fawning, an often-overlooked piece of the fight-flight-freeze reaction to trauma-explaining what it is, why it happens, and how to help survivors regain their voice and sense of self."-- Provided by publisher.
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New York :
G. P. Putnam's Sons,
[2025]
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| 245 | 1 | 0 | |a Fawning : |b why the need to please makes us lose ourselves--and how to find our way back / |c Dr. Ingrid Clayton. |
| 246 | 3 | |a Why the need to please makes us lose ourselves and how to find our way back | |
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| 504 | |a Includes bibliographical references (pages 275-277) and index. | ||
| 505 | 0 | 0 | |t A note on client stories -- |g Part 1 : the anatomy of fawning. |t The fourth F : what is fawning? ; |t The fawning family tree ; |t Anthony -- |t It's not your fault : why fawning flourishes ; |t The double bind ; |t Francis -- |t Who, me? : the signs of fawning ; |t To tell you the truth ; |t Sadie -- |t The merry-go-round of fawning : cycles of trauma bonds and reenactment ; |t For what it's worth ; |t Mia -- |g Part 2 : the journey of unfawning. |t The magic of trusting yourself ; |t Trigger city ; |t Davis -- |t Blinders off : how to do the inner work of unfawning ; |t Reparenting ourselves ; |t Lily -- |t Opening up : tackling the relational (outer) work of unfawning ; |t Righting our wrongs ; |t Grace. |
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| 520 | |a "Most of us are familiar with the three F's of trauma -- fight, flight, or freeze. But psychologists have identified a fourth, extremely common (yet little-understood) response: fawning. Often conflated with "codependency" or "people-pleasing," fawning occurs when we inexplicably draw closer to a person or relationship that causes pain, rather than pulling away. Do you apologize to people who have hurt you? Ignore their bad behavior? Befriend your bullies? Obsess about saying the right thing? Make yourself into someone you're not...while seeking approval that may never come? You might be a fawner. Fawning explains why we stay in bad jobs, fall into unhealthy partnerships, and tolerate dysfunctional environments, even when it seems so obvious to others that we should go. And though fawning serves a purpose -- it's an ingenious protective strategy in unsafe situations -- it's a problem if it becomes a repetitive, compulsory reaction in our daily lives. But here's the good news: we can break the pattern of chronic fawning, once we see it for the trauma response it is. Drawing on twenty years of clinical psychology work -- as well as a lifetime of experience as a recovering fawner herself -- Dr. Ingrid Clayton demonstrates WHY we fawn, HOW to recognize the signs of fawning (including taking blame, conflict avoidance, hypervigilance, and caretaking at the expense of ourselves), and WHAT we can do to successfully "unfawn" and finally be ourselves, in all our imperfect perfection." -- |c Provided by publisher. | ||
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